EFFECTIVE POLITENESS

Politeness is respecting and being aware of other people’s feelings. Sometimes we do
not notice politeness but we notice inconsiderate behaviours and rudeness. Politeness builds
and improves our relationships with others, creates rapport and respect, boosts our confidence
and self-esteem and it improves our communication skills(Schlund, 2014). Politeness should
not be used to receive likeness from others while making them autonomous. For effective
communication, common sense should be used appropriately taking to account all cultural
differences.
It is always good to say hello to people, shake hands, smile naturally, and gain eye
contact by being approachable and not portraying blankness due to a bad day. It is good to
learn to listen attentively by avoiding interruptions and give others to lay their opinions and
ideas. When necessary, it is good to be assertive and respecting others right of being
assertive too and always having positive things to say about others. Everyone make mistakes
and it’s advisable to apologise for our mistakes of anything that is considered embarrassing or
rude without out doing the apologies. It is always good to remember the other person and
making appropriate comments and being mindful to their problems.
It is always good to thank people for their contribution or input and using please
while requesting for something. In case of achievements, it is good to congratulate or praise
others genuinely without anger or jealous. Effective politeness requires appropriate language
by respecting race, gender, religion or political viewpoints. It’s good to be positive on
whatever one says about others, this is achieved by avoiding gossip. Politeness goes together
with dress code, through avoiding clothes that reveal in public and staring to others wearing
revealing clothes.

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References

Schlund, K. (2014). On form and function of politeness formulae. Journal Of
Politeness Research, 10(2). http://dx.doi.org/10.1515/pr-2014-0012